Why is it that I have to fight for everything that i'm intitled too?

I am disabled/in a wheelchair also, but I am not comparing my situation to yours, but I will tell you what I have learned: few normies truly understand being a handicapped person, though many try/are sympathetic. I am frequently advised what I SHOULD do to deal with my limitations, but rarely told how I can manage it within my limitations. Even the ones who actually know what I can and can't do give me ways to overcome my inabilities that I'm unable to manage, like the doctor telling you to do aqua therapy but you not being able to get into it. I am not, nor do I suggest, being down on the non-handicapped (normies), but I do take what they say, and figure out ways I can actually implement them. I'd figure out what is done in aqua-therapy, find a pool you are allowed in, teach a person who will accompany you what is done, and do it yourself. It is important and necessary that we have able-bodied friends nearby when we engage in potentially dangerous activities even ones we understand.